Well it certainly seems so. In the Lone Star State, the nation's broadest PI (Public Intoxication) law lets cops go virtually anywhere and arrest anyone for drunkenness—even if they're quietly nursing a beer in a bar. The latest victims were at the Rainbow Lounge.

"A half-dozen police cruisers, an unmarked sedan, and the prisoner van slid to a stop in front of the Rainbow Lounge, Fort Worth's newest gay club, at about 1:30 a.m. on June 28, 2009 -- 40 years, almost down to the minute, after New York City police raided the Stonewall Inn with billy clubs and bullhorns. Inside the bar, the officers fanned out, grabbing and arresting six patrons for public intoxication."

Says Robert Guest, a criminal defense attorney in Dallas. "Having no standard allows the police to arrest whoever pisses them off and call it PI," he says, adding, "If you have a violent, homophobic, or just an asshole of a cop and you give him the arbitrary power to arrest anyone for PI, you can expect violent, homophobic, and asshole-ic behavior."

SACRAMENTO, CALIFORNIA (CBS13) "Sources tell CBS13 a state senator from Southern California was arrested for allegedly driving drunk after leaving Faces, a gay nightclub in midtown Sacramento, early Wednesday morning."

The big deal is this Senator Ashburn is a father of four representing parts of Kern, Tulare and San Bernardino Counties with a history of opposing gay rights.

Ashburn issued a statement on the arrest Wednesday afternoon:
"I am deeply sorry for my actions and offer no excuse for my poor judgment. I accept complete responsibility for my conduct and am prepared to accept the consequences for what I did. I am also truly sorry for the impact this incident will have on those who support and trust me – my family, my constituents, my friends, and my colleagues in the Senate."

According to Project Vote Smart, Ashburn's voting record shows he has voted against every gay rights measure in the State Senate since taking office including Recognizing Out-Of-State Same-Sex Marriages", Harvey Milk Day and Expanding Anti-Discrimination Laws.

Can you say "hypocrite"; thought you could!

The building at , 725 Jefferson Avenue, Toledo, Ohio, was closed by the City of Toledo due to safety regulations and prior fines. The building was recently the home of Fascinations! And originally the home of Caesars Show bar which has severed the Toledo gay community since 1980. As stated on one of Caesars' websites: The club was made famous by the Kenny Rogers' song “Lucille" as the "bar in Toledo across from the depot" and was one of the city's first opera houses.

I remember back when I first “came out”, this was the place to be in Toledo on Friday and Saturday nights for the drag shows. My boyfriend at the time loved the drag shows. I myself do find them entertaining and have a great respect for the performers.

In January of this year, Caesars was sold by the previous owner and became Fascination! The new owners were putting their heart and souls into the place, fixing it up and remodeling. The whole community was caught by surprise when the City of Toledo closed the building yesterday due to safety regulations and fines prior to the takeover with the new owners.

But the show must go on! The drag shows themselves have been temporarily moved to Outskirts at 1515 Laskey Road. I am sure with the support of the other gay bars in Toledo, the shows will be hosted at multiple locations in the Toledo area.

As can be seen from the multiple posts on their facebook page, the community has proven the support and love for this establishment. “We will prevail! One door closes and one more bigger and brighter opens. Things happen for a reason. Stay tuned for our UNSTOPABLE return!” “We are NOT closed the building was. We have a new location and can't wait to announce our new attire.”

To the old building, I lower my head and nod, I will miss you and the memories I have of Caesars Show Bar. To the new Fascination! I am being held “spellbound", waiting for the new Location. Best of luck!

"Toady, before I began my work day, I was doing my usual Google searches about news that effects the LGBT community.  I ran across an article in the Washington post by Anne Flaherty of the Associated Press: Pentagon starts clock on lifting gay ban.

For those of you who did not watch President Obama's State of the Union address on television of Thursday night, the President stated: “We finally strengthened our laws to protect against crimes driven by hate. This year, I will work with Congress and our military to finally repeal the law that denies gay Americans the right to serve the country they love because of who they are. It’s the right thing to do.”

In the ArmyTimes. Obama restates plans: Leave Iraq, end gay ban article, it is revealed that "Before Obama’s speech, retired Army Gen. John Shalikashvili, a former chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff who had been urging caution in changing the law, said the time for change has come."

In the post-​​game analysis of the State of the Union address on ABC, George Stephanopoulos made a point of replaying the stone-​​faced reaction from the Joint Chiefs of Staff, when their Commander-​​in-​​Chief announced his intention to push for action in Congress to end discrimination against gays in the military.

In the article by By Jamie McIntyr, Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell: No Applause From the Chiefs  states: "And that, by the way, is exactly how it should be.  The nation’s top military advisors are not the Joint CHEERLEADERS of Staff.  It is not their role to publicly applaud or deride the political policies of the civilian leadership.   Their job is to salute smartly, and carry out their orders.  If they feel the President, or other civilian leaders, are charting a disastrous course, they have the duty to tell them privately, and to even resign if they cannot faithfully implement those polices in good conscience."

The Stars & Stripes quoted Christopher Neff, deputy director of the gay-rights advocate Palm Center, said the path to repeal  “will require both a command decision by the president and a clear timeline which follows.”  The speech fell short in both those areas.

I wonder how many other people think like I do, my birthday should be a Holiday, even a personal one, where I do not have to work and be waited on like a king. Ok now back to reality.

Now that I get to explore the other side of 50, yep I turned 51 today, I really do feel kind of scared.  It is like I am waiting for me to physically fall apart.  I mean my vision is already bad, the mornings are getting harder to get out of bed, and I go to sleep earlier and earlier.  Hold it, I have been like that since I was 30.

I honestly would like to feel like I am a bottle of good wine, I get better with age. I know it is an old joke, but the funny part is there is some truth in it.  I still feel like a 25 year old (well 26 now) caught in this old bear body.  I know some  21 year olds who act more mature than me. So if it is what is inside that counts, well then I just turned 26, HA!

Yesterday, I started getting those birthday wishes on Facebook from my friends and family. One really stood out from a cousin of mine. it went, "Happy Birthday Billy! May your day be filled with love and laughter!" (Ignore the Billy part please, maybe some other day I will blog on that.) My response to the post was "Forget love and laughter, I want food and booze".

That was just the first thing that came to my mind.  I mean my boyfriend is asking me what I want for my birthday, and I really and not giving him any clues. I told him once, "How about you buy dinner and drinks?" See food and booze. But thinking about it more and more, I really like the wishes from my cousin.

Love and Laughter! When you think about it what could be better than a day filled with those you care about and also care about you. I mean I really have a great boyfriend and some excellent friends all of them I love dearly. When we get together, no matter if it is for dinner, drinks (hmmm food and booze again), or a game of cards, we have a good time and laughter is a big part of it.

So now my response to my cousin who wished a day "filled with love and laughter", I am responding, thanks cousin! I will make sure it is centered around food and booze!.

On Thursday, January 21, 2010, a Supreme Court was leased deciding that corporations can use money from their general treasury to finance campaign advertisements. View original post here:
Emma Ruby-Sachs: Supreme Court Campaign Finance Decision Puts Gay … Take the time to read the above post and make your own decision on whether it is good or bad for gays.

For myself, It is a scary. More money interests making large donations to Campaign funds and the political process, means the worse off minorities and the poor will be. Corporations are concerned about one thing, maximizing profits. For the Supreme Court to make a decision based upon the premise that corporations are an association of persons in American society (and that campaign-finance limits violate free speech), does not take it account that they are much more than that.

“As an LGBT person in the United States, more Republican donations should be a scary thing. Money equals advertising time and advertising often translates directly into votes. Rarely does a candidate suffer from too much funding in an election. More Republicans in office means more opposition to equality measures (despite what your favorite Log Cabin Republican might tell you).”

"With its ruling today, the Supreme Court has given a green light to a new stampede of special interest money in our politics. It is a major victory for big oil, Wall Street banks, health insurance companies and the other powerful interests that marshal their power every day in Washington to drown out the voices of everyday Americans. ... We are going to talk with bipartisan congressional leaders to develop a forceful response to this decision." - President Barack Obama.

Let the fundraising begin!

I turn 51 years old on January 25th.  I remember turning 50 ("fitty" as I use to say), it was kind a depressed time, why?  I remember at 30 thinking life is over at 50. But of course that did not happen. I still feel like at 25 year old trapped in this older bear body.

I have always had some rules that I lived by. Did I follow them all the time, NO. Nobody is perfect but trying to set some guidelines by which we live by, helps us in times of indecision.  So as I contemplate the next year having passed the half a century mark, I want to share some of the rules I lived by or "should have" lived by:

1. Always be true to yourself; remember you are a unique individual. The best way to be honest with yourself is to be honest with others.
2. Rememberer "Karma" is a bitch. Treat and respect others they way you want to be treated and respected. Don't be-little others because of their age or physical appearance.  Remember, one day you will be older too.
3. Get good friends and cherish them. Remember a gay person's friends are their family.
4. Get over rejection. Most have specific types they like (bears/leather/twinks/etc).  If you are not their type, it has nothing to do with you, so it is ridiculous to feel rejected.
5. Get over being shy and get some courage. So say something to that someone you are curious about and get it over with. (See Rule 4)
6. Never Hate. Hate is nothing but negativity and hating a person gives them "control" over you.
7. It is what is on the inside that counts. Those with bodies of death, perfect hair, and expensive clothes may look like they have it all together, but most live in terror that their "fake" exterior will break and fall away; causing others to see the empty shell inside.
8. Enjoy life to the fullest. Travel, plan fun times with friends, go out and socialize and try new things. Life is too short.  Don't be the one in your "golden years" that wishes they would have done all the things they no longer can.
9. Remember, your partner is your partner.
   • Be Kind to them
   • Do Nice things for them.
   • Communicate with them about everything.
   • Accept them as they are.
   • Forgive them when they mess up.
   • Tell them you love them.
10. Trust your gut.  If you think something is wrong, it usually is.

These are really 10 simple rules if you think about. Are they easy? Hell no! But trying to live by them will make you a better person.

I received a phone call while having lunch yesterday (1/10/20190) at 1:24 pm, informing me that Greg Knott had passed away. A tremendous feeling of grief, loss and sadness fell over me. I am not ready to loose such a close and good friend.

I met Greg in the summer of 1996.  I remember it well, it is when I officially "came out" to the world.  I was very confused at the time, not as to my orientation, but as to entering the community I for so long wanted to enter publicly. At this time Greg owned the bar, Bretz, here in Toledo. Which happened to be the first gay bar locally I ever went to, other than my "sneaky" trips out of town.

After meeting and talking to Greg, I also decided to move my accounting offices up-stairs from Bretz. I remember talking to Greg telling him about my fear of letting my clients know I was gay, but I also told him I needed them to know. His response was to tell me to open my accounting offices upstairs from Bretz, telling me that would be a signal to all of them. Greg, on the day I moved in, put a gay flag in my window on the second floor.

The times I hold dearest with Greg was our afternoon talks.  In the morning when he arrived at the bar to get his deliveries or clean up, he would call me on the phone and say "coffee is ready." I would grab my cordless phone, walk down the back steps, and we would sit at the bar and have long and meaningful conversations.

I remember the times he would "scold" me about by behaviour the night before or inform me as gay professional in the Toledo area what my responsibilities were to attend certain events and to support certain organizations.

So to say goodbye to him. Greg, you were the most influential person in a period of my life when I needed the most guidance, help and support.  You have always been there for me my good friend. I will miss you more with each passing day.

Are you the type of person who will jump into something new and be a leader, or do you wait for others to do it first, then just follow them?

I am in awe as to some of the responses I am getting from my friends on Facebook(tm), other sites, or even ones I know in the "real" world. During the pre-launch period of this site, which is actually still going on, I have talked to a few friends about the site, and listened to the feedback and recommendations.

I hear from them, "Yeah - great idea!", "Love the site!", or "I can not wait to start blogging on the site!".  Well I wait patiently for them to join to site.  I install Facebook Connect, so they can join with just one click.

The next time I see them, I ask, "Hey, when you going to join the site?" and the response I get is "I will, but you only have 20 users on the site so far!" This tells me my friends are followers, which is kind of a shock.  I mean lets look at the facts.  If everyone waited till there were 10,000 members on a site to join, no sites would be around.

I have to ask myself, did they wait till there were 10,000 members on MySpace, Facebook, or even Gay.com before they joined that site. Are we really that complacent these days?

Here at HomoSexualsOnly.com we have a medium to express ourselves, socialize in a community, share ideas and thoughts, help others by sharing our experiences, and even promote events in the LGBT community; without an atmosphere of hate or intolerance. 

So, I am calling of my friends and family all over, lets be leaders and not followers. Take the 5 to 10 minutes to join this site and let our voices be heard.

For those of you who have not heard yet, Amanda "Mitch" Simpson is possibly the first transgender presidential appointee, began work Tuesday at the Commerce Department.

Simpson, 48, had lived in Tucson for 15 years before moving to Washington, D.C., to take the federal post. She has worked in the aerospace and defense industry for 30 years, most recently in advanced technology development at Tucson's Raytheon Missile Systems.

Well David Letterman, did a joke in his monologue about this appointment.  As the photograph was being shown, announcer Alan Kalter shouted, "What? Amanda? Amanda used to be a dude?" and ran off the stage.

For those of you who did not see the video here it is below:

The joke, I suppose, is the jest that the announcer who ran off had sex or was attracted to Simpson, and is now in shock.  The question now comes up, is that funny?

Change.org's Michael Jones thinks it's a "joke about how 'sick' she is because she's transgender"; the Human Rights Campaign finds Kalter's "feigned 'trans panic'" to be offensive; "You may not be aware," their Associate Director of Diversity for Transgender Issues has written to Letterman, "that the punch line in your skit has been used as a defense in nearly every hate crime perpetrated against transgender people that has come to trial."

Other groups, are not up in arms, like the folks at Queerty. Maybe it was a compliment?  "If Kalter was fantasizing about her (thus, his being so upset upon learning she was born a man)," they reason, "that means her transition was that good."

I would lean towards the fact that the joke was on the announcer who ran off stage.  Maybe seeing quite a few transgender people and knowing them, has made me "less sensitive" to how others may have taken the joke.

Ok, I made the decision to go with 2 New Year's resolutions in 2010.  I am kinda giggling inside asking myself if this is such a good idea or not, but I figure there are 2 things I want and need to change about myself this year.

The first resolution is my weight and health.  Being 5o years old, and not getting any younger, I need to pay attention to my health.  This means that the high protein, low carbohydrate diet is going to be my staple again for this year.  I had done this diet before in the past, and successfully I may add.  The problem has always been, eating healthy after getting off the diet.  Maybe that can be my resolution for 2011?

The second resolution is to delete all my "cruising" accounts.  This I  "MUST" do.  I have been in a relationship with the same person now going into its 4th year.  I don't think I need my accounts at adam4adam, daddyhunt, silverdaddies, or manhunt any more.  I always would tell myself, hey I can chat with my friends on those sites, so why close them.  Then I finally realized, hey if they are my friends I have either their email addresses or better yet there cell phone numbers if I need to chat.

I went in this morning and closed two of the accounts.  One of the site provides me with a free premium membership, due to my gay porn blog. I think I will just go into that one and change my profile to read "TAKEN"; although I know that no one will read it, they never do.

In talking to my boyfriend, I asked him what he thought about the gay.com account; he said well you may want to keep that one, so you can chat with some friends whom you do not have a cell phone number for.   This made a little sense, but I really would not call them "friends"; they are more of bar buddies.

As for the first resolution, well let me tell you this, I have been real good about it so far, in fact I have been dreaming of a big damn piece of cake with lots of frosting....

As 1/1/2010 approaches quickly, it is time for me to have that usual thought of a New Year's resolution. This is usually a fleeting thought because what happens is I come up with a good one then one January 1st I say "I am too hung over, I will start tomorrow." Then of course tomorrow never comes and by the end of January I am saying "I'll just do it next year!"

There are quite a few things I could pick this year that I dislike about my life.  I think this year it will be to diet and get back into shape.  For those of you who know me personally, you know I could really use that.

Maybe I should make more than one resolution, maybe pick 2 or 3 from the list below:

• Blog more
• No More Drama
• Fight for Gay Rights
• Shed Bad Influences
• Shave my Body Hair (never... I have faced the fact I am a bear)
• Get a Gym Membership (and actually use it)
• Diet
• Delete all the accounts I still have at the crusing web sites (I don't think the excuse I am there to talk to my friends is really to valid anymore, and I know it would make my boy friend happy!)
• Make my BF Happy (see above)
• Drink Less (Yeah like that will happen)

Well as I actually take the time to decide what mine will be, why not comment here and let me know what your plans are for a New Years Resolution in 2010.

In setting up this site, one of the last tasks I had to do ws to get some links incoming and outgoing to other gay/homosexual sites.

So I went into Google and searched the word Homosexual.  I was in awe at some of the top 20 sites I saw in the results. Obviously the top one was Homosexuality - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia, which stated:

Homosexuality refers to the romantic or sexual attraction or behavior among members of the same sex; or to a sexual orientation. As an orientation, homosexuality refers to "an enduring pattern of or disposition to experience sexual, affectional, or romantic attractions primarily to" people of the same sex; "it also refers to an individual’s sense of personal and social identity based on those attractions, behaviors expressing them, and membership in a community of others who share them.

Then I came across the "HATE" sites, those saying homosexuality is wrong. (I have purposely taken out the link to the sites as to not give them any acknowledgement or SEO support.  To see them for yourself just google "homosexuals".

Homosexuals brainwashing our children in elementary schools

Homosexuals brainwashing our children in elementary schools. Extremely slick propaganda directed at the youngest of children! ...

AGAINST HOMOSEXUALITY!

This page shows that God, the Creator of all mankind, is the One who righteously defines homosexuality as a heinous crime, and shows that ...

Homosexuality is Condemned in the Bible!

The Bible's condemnation of homosexuality is as clear and plain as the Bible's condemnation of murder, adultery, premarital sex, kidnapping, ...

Hopefully this site with other ones supporting and speaking out against those that would treat us as second class citizens and sinners, the search results will change in time and the voices of hatred will be muted.


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This was to funny, I thought I would share it.. If you know the online game World of Warcraft you will appreciate all the effort that went into making this video.

Rather than be called "Admin" on all of my pages, I opened a second account here at Homosexualsonly.com so people get to know me by my real name, or my screen name of Jake or Jake46a. 

I am a 50 year old gay male living in Toledo, OH; or better known as "Hell" to some.  Not exactly the booming area of the country right now, but with the current economy, what area is booming?

I actually purchased this domain back in April, and the story behind it is in this blog post. Why Did HomoSexualsOnly.com come about?. Please take the time to read it.  I want everyone to feel at home here, no matter what your sexual orientation is.  This is not a hookup site by no means.  If that is what you are looking for then just goolge, "gay hookup sites".

My main source of income is web design and technical support for Joomla and Joomla 3rd party components. I do however have a few other sites, some of which are porn site.  Maybe some day I will blog on how I "acquired those".

But for now I would just like to welcome everyone to this new site, please take the time to look it over and start blogging or creating a discussion group.

If you have any suggestions for the site, plese use the Contact Us link in the top menu.  Once again, thanks for visiting the site.

The Kinsey Scale.  One of Dr. Kinsey's most well known theories is the Homosexual-Heterosexual Rating Scale, which rates a person's homosexuality or heterosexuality on a 7-point continuum.

Dr. Alfred Kinsey and his colleagues published two books called Sexual Behavior in the Human Male and Sexual Behavior in the Human Female based on the study of human sexuality. These works are also known as the "Kinsey Reports."

0- Exclusively heterosexual
1- Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual
2- Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual
3- Equally heterosexual and homosexual
4- Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual
5- Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual
6- Exclusively homosexual

Keep in mind, however, that it is normal for a heterosexual person to have thoughts, dreams or even fantasies about members of the same sex as it is for homosexuals to have thoughts about heterosexuals. Thus, your "score" may not be a perfect 6 or 0.